When I got home last night, I was once again, feeling a little depressed. Not so much about life or anything, but about how it seems so difficult for me to fit in.
As I was sitting there thinking about that, I realized it doesn’t really matter. Sure, it feels great to have friends, to be part of the action, and to know that people want to spend time with you. But how much do the people at social gatherings and such really control the direction of your life? Not very much.
In fact, if they do, then it’s you who has given them that control.
Anyways… I was thinking a lot, just about the situation I’ve found myself in recently, and the ones I’ve been in many times before.
There’s so many times in all our lives where things go wrong, up goes down, and suddenly we sit around and throw ourselves a pity party. We spend our days moaning and groaning about how bad things are, and how we don’t really deserve it, and how there’s nothing we can do about it. I know, because I’ve been there.. and once in a while, I stumble back to that place again.
But the thing is, there’s no point to it. For an extended amount of time at least. There’s nothing wrong with getting down and upset when life hands you a giant, sour lemon that squirts you in the eye when you try to make lemonade about it.
In fact, it’s healthy to get upset, to shed some tears, and maybe punch a few pillows.
What comes next though? Quite simply enough, the next step is moving on from it.
I’ve witnessed so many friends and other people I cared about destroy their lives, entirely because they didn’t do anything but throw themselves a pity party, and depend on others to say that they were doing the right thing.
Why bother? When it comes down to it, the only person who can really make you happy is YOU. The good things in life, no matter how limited, should always be able to outweigh the bad. It doesn’t matter how much crud you’re facing. There’s always someone who loves you, someone who cares, and someone who wants to see you happy in life.
So grab the bull by the horns, and take control of your life.
Do what makes YOU happy. You don’t need a bunch of friends, worshiping fans, or even a boyfriend or girlfriend to make you feel worth something. Go out and strike life for yourself. You might surprise yourself with some of the awesome talents that surface.
Whatever you do though, don’t dig yourself into a hole with a pity-party shovel. While not everything in life is in your control, your happiness is.
Life is for the living, so live it.