As some of you may recall, a few months ago I posted about how I wanted to write about a controversial topic on my blog… well, this is it.
Trying to figure out when would be the perfect time to do so has been my part of my struggle, but then again, is there ever a perfect time for controversy? However, in lieu of President Obama changing his stance, I think now is as good a time as any.
The desire to write this post came from a question asked by one of my followers when I did an ‘Ask Me Anything’ post last year. She asked to know my stance on homosexuality, and while I briefly summarized it, I promised I would do a post which would further explain it.
So here goes. I apologize if it’s not worded eloquently. It took a few days to write this, and I hope it comes off with what it is I’m trying to say.
I support the President’s decision.
Now, don’t get me wrong. As a Christian, I believe the Bible is the word of God, and the word declares homosexuality is a sin. But, there are a few things that I feel Christianity has gotten wrong. The first of which is that we treat homosexuals as if they are somehow worse than the rest of us. But in the New Testament, Christ tells us that all sins are equal, and all men are sinners. So, if we’re all in the same lot, why do we feel they are somehow worse than us?
I hate this idea that people spew that people who are gay can’t be Christian. That their very being is an affront to God. If sins are equal, and gays can’t be Christians, then really, neither can we. We all have some sort of sin we struggle with. Heck, we all have something we will always struggle with. As Paul pointed out, everyone has their own cross to bear — a cross that will always be a part of them, a struggle that no matter what, we will always be facing their whole lives.
Contrary to what a lot of Christians will say, I don’t believe homosexuality is a choice. I really do believe its the way they are born. And while I’m not trying to compare it to a mental illness, but having dealt with a mental illness I have been treated by many other Christians the same way. For hundreds of years, the church believed (and many still do) that mental illness is not something you are born with. And yet, it has been proven that it actually has to do with a chemical imbalance. Does it make me incapable of being a Christian? No. Does it make me incapable of having a relationship with God? No. Does it mean that just because I’m a Christian God’s going to take that away from me? Definitely not.
So does it mean someone who’s gay can’t have a relationship with God? No. What solidifies this even further with me is that I have witnessed first hand how in depth this is not a choice. Two very close friends of mine who have been Christians their whole lives, who could give me a run for my money on faith, spirituality and knowledge have, in recent years come out with the fact that they are struggling with being gay. Both took a large chunk of time to pursue God on it, to ask for an explanation, a change, something… and God stayed silent. He didn’t strike them down, he didn’t push them away. But he did love on them and work on them.
See, here’s the thing. What both of those friends proved was a strong point — it is their thing to seek God on it. It’s not for the church to decide what they should do or how God feels about it — it’s for God.
Christ called us to this world with two commandments. To love others as He first loved us, and to obey Him and share His love with the world. Sharing his love is not pushing people who have struggles out of our churches and telling them they’re going to hell. It’s not treating them like they’re not worth life on this earth, or that God couldn’t possibly love them and accept them as they are. It’s about loving them exactly as they are. It’s about showing them Christ’s love, about sharing His message with them, and leading them to Him — letting Christ do the rest. Letting Him work in them the way HE sees fit, not the way we see fit.
Because the truth is, we really don’t know what God’s stand on this is. For all the translations that prove that Leviticus and other statements in the Bible are about homosexuality, there are as many translations that prove it had nothing to do with that. The problem with the original writing is that there are so many different translations of many of the words. We can argue until we’re black and blue as to what is right or what is wrong, but then, we’re missing the point. Does it really matter if being gay is a choice or genetic? No. What matters is showing them Christ’s love. Showing them why following God is the better choice, and leaving God to work in them how He will. We can argue about all of it until we’re black and blue. But where is arguing really getting us?
When it comes down to it, we are doing more harm than good. Yes, the Bible says that we will be hated for following Christ — but here’s the thing. We’re not being hated for following Christ. We’re being hated because we are not following Christ. Because we are preaching one thing and doing another. Because we are forgetting Christ’s greatest commandment. God says He will hold us responsible for every heart we harden towards Him. When you think about how many hearts we’re hardening, that’s a lot of responsibility we’re piling onto ourselves.
Which is why I say, if they want to pass gay marriage, let them. We have a choice as Christians here. We can continue to fight a war that not only hardens hearts, but shows a complete lack of love and Christ-like behaviour. Or, we can back down. We can leave the choice up to them, and show them love instead of hatred and anger. Because really, when it comes down to it, it’s not affecting us, it’s not affecting our lives, and it’s not affecting our faith.
Keep in mind, Christ tells us over and over again, that while we are in this world, we are not supposed to be of this world. And if allowing gay marriage is part of this world, then isn’t it our duty to do what Christ would do, and rather than thrusting ourselves into the middle of it with red in our eyes, stepping back and loving on them? How many more would truly see Christ’s love if we actually loved people instead of condemning them?
I know I would rather be supportive and loving and actually show them the love of Christ by caring for them, rather than waging a war that hurts people and turns them against God.
Truth is, we’re never gonna know if we were right or wrong until we get to heaven. We are never going to fully know or understand the heart of God until we get to heaven either.
So I propose we change our tune. Try loving. We don’t have to agree with other people’s choices and lifestyles. It’s possible to be in a relationship to love someone and still disagree. But how we choose to show how we feel is going to make all the difference. We’re called to be a people who, when others see us wonder why we are the way we are in a good way, wonder what it is we have that they don’t. Being filled with hatred is never going to show that.
Whether or not I believe being gay is a sin shouldn’t affect whether or not I love them and share Christ’s love and show the way to Him. Whether or not a person is gay shouldn’t affect how I love them.
I saw a video posted yesterday that pretty much echoed my thoughts on all of this. A powerful look at how the world sees Christians, and the image we have created for ourselves. Watch it, and think about it. Unlike Christ