Until this past year, I was a very avid supporter of a strictly pro-life agenda. I was so stuck on that side that I never actually took the time to speak to any pro-choicers about their views. I avoided discussions on the topic like the plague, and was convinced that every pro-choice supporter felt about it the way the loudest, most vocal people on their side felt.


I’ve always been the type to make sure I am well-educated on a topic before speaking about it, which is probably another reason I never really spoke about the issue. I couldn’t deny not being educated, and I often found myself so enraged at the idea that someone could be pro-abortion, that I didn’t even want to fathom what they might say. Then one day, I decided to speak up, decided to get clarification, and decided to listen.


One friend said something that day that made me rethink everything. ‘Pro-choice is not about being pro-abortion,’ she said.


Mind blown.


Especially as a Christian, when I’ve spoken with pro-lifers, I’ve always been given the impression that those who are pro-choice support the idea of abortion, think there is nothing wrong with abortion, and believe that there need be no regulation on abortion. After all, that is what we have often heard from some of the most vocal *pro-choicers.


But if I’m being honest, I should have known that the loudest and most vocal did not necessarily represent the whole, or for that matter, possibly not even the majority. After all, in every other area, the loud ones almost always tend to be the drastic, obscure ones. We see it in Christianity (WBC anyone?), Feminism, Atheism, Muslim – all of it.


The more I talked, studied and researched the issue, the more I began to see that if I really value the pro-life argument, then the best thing I can do, at least here in Canada, is support a pro-choice legislation. Here’s why:
Currently, because abortion is technically only legal in an instance that the pregnancy is deemed a health risk to the woman. But within that, there is no actual definition of what that ‘health’ risk entails. There is also no ruling on at what point during the pregnancy is too late for an abortion. There is no definition of when that fetus becomes a person.


And while it’s not legal, there are still ways to get abortions. There are ways around the ‘health’ factor (several hospitals that did offer them across Canada were found to be okaying the abortions without actually going through the ‘reviewal’ process), but there is also the issue of timeline. While I truly believe that MOST doctors would not abort a child that is almost to term, the law does not prevent them from being able to. Which opens the door that someone *could*.


When I sat down to speak to more people who identify as pro-choice, I found that most also do not deny the fact that there is a high number of women who later regret their abortion and suffer either physical or mental trauma because of it. But because of the way the government currently handles abortion, our country is lacking in appropriate resources to help prevent this type of situation.


There is no funding put into place for education, therapy and even proper ‘reviewal’ processes. The only warnings about the possible emotional and physical repercussions of abortion are the ones slung at them by pro-lifers – often-times in radical ways that are not sensitive to the situation that the woman is facing.


Legalizing abortion would allow for the implementation of regulations and laws – laws that protect the women and provide ways to ensure they are properly informed, but also laws that protect the child, laws that define when that child becomes a child and is no longer considered a fetus. Processes could also be put in place – that prior to going through with the procedure, the woman would need to meet with a psychologist, or psychiatrist about both the physical and mental/emotional risks they are facing. They could meet with a counselor to talk about the reasoning – to make sure that they are really sure about this.


It would also allow for the types of laws that could prevent a woman from getting more than one abortion simply because she doesn’t want to deal with the consequences of her actions. The kind of woman who would use it as a form of birth control, rather than dealing with her sexual encounters responsibly by employing protection, etc.


When it comes down to it – I don’t believe abortion is okay (unless we’re talking someone who was raped – totally different ball game). I don’t believe that a child isn’t a child until it’s born. But I also have to face the facts – there is more damage done to women and to children from illegal abortions, and through a lack of proper education on it with it being a ‘taboo’ subject. Keeping it illegal keeps the discussions closed and the more dangerous options open.


I don’t believe abortion is okay. But I do believe that legalizing it would open the door to have less abortions, more regulation, and more awareness. And for that reason, I choose to support a pro-choice legislation.


  1. ComaDiary

    I’ve had two abortions, one at the age of 17 and one at the age of 21, and the only time I remember is when I read about abortion in America and across the world. I made the right choice for me and I am so lucky that I could do it without fear or reprisal.

    Abortion can divide people, when in reality it’s actually a very private matter. I would never judge someone for reasons for bringing life into the world, and I would never ever question a woman or her reasons for having an abortion. I don’t believe any woman actually wants an abortion. Then again, if you fall pregnant and the child is unwanted, all the choices are a bit shit really.

    I also don’t believe abortion should be limited, as, that just spells disaster. After my first one I swore to god I’d never let it happen again, but if your boyfriend doesn’t tell you the condom has split because he’s scared you’ll be angry you end up being a bit stuck really.

    I think aborting embryos (which is upto 8 weeks) is absolutely ok, I’ve seen what comes out, and yes it has the potential for life, but so does an egg, or a lamb, and no-one gets lynched for eating those. I believe there is no question that abortion shouldn’t really be legal once the foetus can live outside of the mother, but all the while the foetus relies on the mum, it’s not really a child, more like a parasite. At 24 weeks the foetus has a 50% survival rate, and also, seems like long enough for someone to decide if they can really bring a child into the world and provide for them.

    I think it goes without saying though, that later abortions and abortions done for the genuine health of mum or baby are so important and should always remain available.

    1. Tabitha Wells

      Thank you for replying, and for sharing your story. I always value when someone is brave enough to speak up about their own stories.

      “Abortion can divide people, when in reality it’s actually a very private matter. I would never judge someone for reasons for bringing life into the world, and I would never ever question a woman or her reasons for having an abortion.”

      Precisely. Regardless of my feelings on abortion, I don’t have the right to pass judgement on a person for that. I don’t know what thoughts, feelings, or situations went into play surrounding it – and to me, as a Christian – if I choose to pass judgement on a woman for that, I am not being a Christian. Christ would demand that we would love someone, despite what they may have or have not done.

      I do disagree on the fetus being more of a parasite than a child by that point – as the child still has consciousness, is able to move, live, respond to the sound of it’s mother’s voice. I don’t believe that it magically becomes a child only when it passes out of the body. But again, this is why I believe there has to be discussion on it, investigation and laws created. We could debate until the end of time about it, but unless any action is taken to make a decision, these opinions and thoughts still sit here not mattering, not helping.

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      Obviously you didn’t read very many of my points. I never said abortion is okay. In fact, I do not support abortion as an option. You’re confusing pro-choice with being pro-abortion. Pro-choicers don’t necessarily agree that it is the right option.

      However, by making abortion illegal and shutting down facilities or making it harder to obtain, what we are doing is driving these women to search for illegal ways. Countries where it is not legal, women are dying because of the ways they are trying to abort. And in the past, the same things have been done here.

      The Pro-Life movement isn’t doing anything to help women who are struggling with this decision. Telling a woman she is a murderer and forcing her not to have an abortion is not going to make things any better, and if she goes through with having the child is more likely to lead to resentment.

      People need to focus on helping women know their options, on proper counselling and understanding. The pro-life movement doesn’t do that.

  2. Brittany Pines

    I tried to comment on this when you first posted, but I was having WordPress issues. Here goes a second try:

    I am in a similar boat. I don’t enjoy the idea of abortion at all. But I absolutely support pro-choice legislation. The reality is, the pro-choice/pro-life issue stretches SO MUCH FURTHER than “Whoops, accidentally got knocked up so I must get rid of this.” It deals with situations where the mother is in danger from a complicated pregnancy, and generally affects the type of care a woman can get even when not pregnant (because in the eyes of many pro-lifers and laws, we are ONLY potential baby hosts).

    Also, I really believe that if as Christians we want to decrease the amount of abortions, we have to me more pro-active. Focusing on making abortion illegal does not make us a sympathetic cause- we just look like jerks. If we focused our energies on providing more resources for unplanned/unwanted pregnancies- like therapy for the mother, help with adoptions (or, if we’re really serious, adopting ourselves instead of “being fruitful & multiplying” biologically), etc- then women would have better options than abortions.

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