Is there a difference between alienating everyone and living by our faith?

It looks like I’m off to a late start yet again with this… but it’s been a busy few weeks.

 

There has been a lot of talk lately, both internationally and locally about how the choices of the world are trampling on the rights of Christians. Between new sex-ed curriculums, gay marriage, abortion and most recently, a Bill being supported by Indiana’s Governor allowing businesses to exercise their religious freedoms by banning LGBT customers. People declaring that they should not be forced to tolerate (or love) these people, all the while proclaiming their obedience for God and ‘loving’ Christian faith.’The world is turning against Christianity, and we have to take a stand’ they cry, as if those who do not believe the same way they do automatically are having their religious rights trampled upon.

I’ve never understood this idea that obedience to God, showing His word, means drawing a line in the sand and segregating ourselves completely, all the while crying fowl, as if somebody else’s choices and lifestyle somehow prevents them from being able to live life as a Christian. That showing them a firm hand, passing judgement and spreading word of God’s wrath is the only way to show God’s love.

I’ve seen this attitude defended by Christians who cite Romans 12:2 to defend this attitude, though I feel they’re missing the point.

Romans 12:2 reads ‘Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.’

The argument I hear is that if we don’t fight we are conforming to the patterns of this world. That silence is agreement.

I don’t believe either is true in the slightest. Romans 12:2 is very clear that not conforming to the world is about transforming yourself by the renewing of your MIND. Not by starting a protest, shouting at the top of your lungs, or posting signs about how Jesus says ‘no gays allowed’ (which, Jesus never said, FYI). It’s not even about taking a stand against what OTHERS are doing; it’s by focusing on YOUR state of mind, on keeping yourself full of God’s word.

Also, silence is not always agreement. The Bible makes reference multiple times about being slow to speak, being slow to act, and about not REACTING.

Jesus was about loving the sinners, developing relationships with him. He never pushed them away. Jesus surrounded himself with the broken, the disobedient, the ones choosing lives opposite to God. He dined with liars and thieves, and he saved adulterers from their death. If you read the entire new testament, you will not find a single retelling of Christ’s ministry where he said directly to someone who WAS NOT ALREADY A BELIEVER ‘You’re going to hell, you’re against me and my father, don’t talk to me or come to my home unless you’re willing to change.’

In fact, he passed more judgement against believers than he did non-believers. When it came to non-believers, when it came to the ones he wanted to woo and win over, he showed them love, compassion and friendship, despite their lifestyles.

John 3:17 says ‘For God sent his son into the world, not to condemn the world, but that through him, the world might be saved.’

Jesus came to speak to the world, the ones who didn’t believe, free of condemnation. His stance was clear but his heart was open. He loved without prejudice, and guided with the gentle compassion of someone who has a greater understanding of the people he’s guiding. He was harsh, directing ways to live towards those who already called themselves saved, the ones who thought they were better than everyone else because of their faith. He called out the pharisees, the priests, the religious who treated the non-religious with the same kind of contempt that Christians treat those of other lifestyles today.

We don’t need to ban LGBTQ folks from restaurants, churches, businesses and homes for people to see and know that you are a Christian. Loving them, building relationships with them, does not mean you are sacrificing your faith. Fighting against gay marriage isn’t going to show love, or show God’s word, and it’s not going to affect your life and your faith either. How they choose to live their lives will not have an impact on how you choose to live.

You don’t need to proclaim your beliefs at the top of your lungs for the world to understand. As Christians, being children of God should be obvious by who we are, how we love, and the way we live our lives.

While John 15:19 indicates that we will be hated by the world, it’s not supposed to be because of anything we are doing, anything we’ve done. According to the verse, we will be hated because God has chosen us out of the world. The world is never going to love us. In fact, if you want to get REALLY Biblical, the world is going to continue to get further and further from Christian ideals and eventually form one unified belief against it (according to Revelations). The Bible keeps talking about us not really being a part of the world (again, Romans 12:2, John 15:19), and yet Christians keep desperately trying to make this world theirs. To make it a place that follows by their ideals, their beliefs, their words.

So many keep crying fowl, keep declaring that every law passed in favour of values of the world is an explicit attack on Christianity. Is our God, the one that we proclaim to follow, so little that if these things move forward our families and our faith will fall apart? Is our God so little that if we don’t draw a line in the sand, segregating ourselves from everyone else, we will never be able to shine is light? Is our God so little, that in order for us to be obedient, we must forsake anyone who believes differently, and show them only hatred and contempt?

If you want to live a Christ-like life, live like a Christian, then start doing it. Study how Christ acted, how Christ lived, how Christ spoke. I guarantee if Christians spent more-time focusing on that (since the term Christian actually means ‘little Christ’), instead of focusing on trying to force a world that believes differently to live by the same convictions we do, things might look a little differently.

Besides, if you have to do things that hurt others, that show hatred, or that segregate you as ‘better than’ or ‘less damaging’ than the rest of the world, if you have to try that hard to prove that you believe what you believe, then it might be time to look at yourself in the mirror and work a little harder on proving it to yourself.

As a Christian, as someone who believes in God’s word, and tries to follow Christ, I stand against the law passed in Indiana. I stand against any law that strips another human being of the right to dignity, and I do not believe that in any way that a law or a stance that strips dignity could be the will or the plans of God. When what we’re doing has crossed the lines from taking a stand for our faith and has entered the realm of alienating people for it’s sheer cruelty and hatred, that’s not faith. And that’s not something that I believe the God that I serve would ever condone.

For more on Salvation Sunday, check out Brittany’s post, Why Are Christians So Scared?

6 thoughts on “Is there a difference between alienating everyone and living by our faith?

  1. There will be times when the exercise of your faith alienates others. We are told plainly that we will suffer persecution for bearing His name; but one litmus test of the credibility of stances taken (like in Indiana) is that If their actions are exempt of Grace, then their motives can be called into question. Jesus did not come for the righteous, but for the disenfranchised & despised of society. Mainline (and to a certain extent Evangelical) “Christendom”, risks reverting to a separated and monastic mentality. A dogma that poisons from within.

    We are called to be salt and light to the world, but in order to facilitate that mandate we need to show mercy, grace and love. How can you add flavour to something unless you rub salt into it? Our hands need to be open and calloused by serving others; not covered with self-righteous gloves in vain attempts not to be “tainted” by the world. Jesus touched and healed lepers in His day; our task is to do the same to the modern-day ostracized…no matter who they are.

  2. I like this. As someone with no belief what-so-ever, I really like this.
    My Grandmother is a practising Catholic, we all know it but she doesn’t preach to us, her faith is for herself and she understands that it’s not for everyone. (She might believe I’m going to hell, but she never said that).

    I feel the Indiana laws that have just been passed are very much “I’ll make you believe if you don’t, I’ll force you to change your ideals” and for me, surely you would want someone come to the Church and Christ for salvation of their own volition; then it’s true. If that makes sense.

    My ex-boyfriend had a friend who was a practicing Sikh, but was also gay and drank alcohol, I asked him how his sexuality merged with his faith and he basically said that he believed the God he believed in would want him to be happy, that providing it was a consensual relationship his God would be happy that he could let someone else into his heart.

    1. Honestly, I could go on for hours about this topic, and many of the things you’ve addressed. I used to always get in ‘trouble’ when we’d talk in Sunday School and youth about sharing our faith and asking people to accept Jesus, because I don’t do it. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to have all of my friends and family become Christians. The whole concept that those that don’t go to hell terrifies me. I can’t even begin to count the number of times I’ve cried myself to sleep and asked God why, when so many of them are good people, that’s what he chooses to do. But at the same time, I don’t want anyone to become a Christian solely because they give in to my pestering them. I want them to come to believe it if that’s what’s going to happen, and to me, my life, the way I live, speak, etc in my mind should be the greater testimony than trying to convert people.

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